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Family Passage

pasgesI never met Regina’s natural mother. She passed away when Regina was in her early teen years. I actually only met Regina’s father several times – once when I was on the boyfriend-checkout-trip to Missouri, once when we were in Missouri for our wedding, and then, I believe, one more time when we were traveling through Missouri on a trip. Regina’s father passed away when Regina was pregnant with Zak. If I remember correctly (I may not be), Regina never had a chance to tell her dad that she was pregnant.

Anyway, Regina’s dad remarried a nice lady named Bernice when Regina was a teenager (I think). I met Bernice a few times, too. She and Elmo (Regina’s father) seemed to get along okay and always were pleasant with me. Regina, of course, missed her mom but always cared for Bernice, too.

Bernice had some children that were close to Regina’s age so they all become siblings, of sorts. They, too, we nice kids and Regina always cared for them, as well. When Regina’s father passed, Bernice’s kids assumed most of the care for their mom.

Sadly, I received word a few days ago from Patsy that Bernice recently passed. Bernice had been sick for a few years. Before I lost Regina, I remember Regina talking about Bernice and some of the help that Bernice’s kids were giving Bernice to help out.

I hope Bernice passed in peace and that her family is as good as they can be, under the circumstances. Patsy said that Benny (Patsy’s husband and Regina’s brother) will be leading some songs at Bernice’s funeral in a few days. I, too, hope the service goes well.

I mentioned to Patsy that I believe that Regina and her parents – both natural and extended – might be able to have a few laughs and some good conversation now that they are all together.

I hope it is good times.

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Seed Spots



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Winners Kinda

succerfatbullIt’s ironic (or something) for the USA that win, tie, and lose – we make it into the knockout rounds. Several things, it seems. First, I am not being unpatriotic so don’t get your shirt all up in a knot. Second, the USA moving on had to do with the fate of several other teams. Perhaps we need to send our thanks and appreciation to those teams while we are whooping and hollering for ours. And third, doesn’t it seem strangely right that many of us think that it is our thing somehow that with the USA moving up into the knockouts, “everyone wins?” Isn’t that the mantra we love in our country? “We are all winners! Just for participating and showing our sportsmanship! Blue ribbons for everyone.”

Winning and not winning is hard and it’s nice to win sometimes even when, I suppose, the fates really had to help us along. Okay, then. We’ll take it. Let’s see what happens in the knockouts. But it seems just slightly, kind of, ever a bit funny that some of us are taking the extra step and talking about how far soccer has come in the US, how tough the guys and staff really have become, and that the future looks very bright for the whole sport. Wait a minute! Just wait a minute!

We are where we are because of a complex scoring method in group play and some other teams that did well or didn’t do well. Otherwise, instead of being all atmospheric about moving into the knockouts, we’d be condemning the decision by Klinsmann for not bringing Donovan along, we’d ask why are there so many Germans on the USA team, we’d point out the seemingly unfair tournament schedule and venues that the USA had to play in, and we’d note that truly it was a Group of Death.

I opt for the humility route. We are where we are because the cards fell our way. Let’s take it, enjoy the guys, and have fun but we need to remember that a win, tie, and loss isn’t usually what makes a champion.

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Shootn’ Day

Shooting at the Colonial Shooting Academy.

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Square Gardens

A few of us are going to be lining our gardens up together – we might end up with eight or ten gardens once we are done. I built my two yesterday. Still need to plant them and do a few other things like put a pest net over them. This will be fun. And all for a good cause. By participating with a local program who promotes square vegetable garden planting, we agree to give a percentage of our harvest to a local food bank. That’s cool, right?

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Grad Day

1447109_tn_hbi_me_ocean_view_graduation_2By the time you read this, another 2,000 or so Stafford County high school seniors will have been graduated and loosed upon the world. (The graduation ceremonies for all StaffCo schools were this morning at 8am.) There are, of course, tens of thousands of students graduating from high school this graduation season from all across the country.

Commencement speeches are often the “today is the first day of your life” kinds of speeches. The “take the tiger by the tail and make a difference” kinds of words. The “you are the best in the world” bits of advice. The “I’m not going to use cliches so here I go” talks. And my favorite – “Each starfish counts…” And so forth. Well, perhaps it is all apropos for the occasion but I think it’s not much more than a lot of wishful thinking and hoping. All of us hope for, of course, the best for the kids and maybe we figure they will figure it out soon enough so why rush the serious stuff, but I wonder sometimes if they’d like to hear some truth sometimes, too.

Thing is, all of the riches, prestige, power, and influence that the thinker-authors of Ecclesiastes had only lasted a few years – it has been gone for centuries and centuries. There aren’t any massive bank accounts, fancy cars and houses, or power-brokered politics left behind from any of them. And, frankly, they knew that’s what would happen. There would be nothing left of them.

Except some words to be passed on.

Remember your Creator
     in the days of your youth,
before the days of trouble come
     and the years approach when you will say,
     “I find no pleasure in them”—
before the sun and the light
     and the moon and the stars grow dark,
     and the clouds return after the rain;
when the keepers of the house tremble,
     and the strong men stoop,
when the grinders cease because they are few,
     and those looking through the windows grow dim;
when the doors to the street are closed
     and the sound of grinding fades;
when people rise up at the sound of birds,
     but all their songs grow faint;
when people are afraid of heights
     and of dangers in the streets;
when the almond tree blossoms
     and the grasshopper drags itself along
     and desire no longer is stirred.
Then people go to their eternal home
     and mourners go about the streets.
Remember him—before the silver cord is severed,
     and the golden bowl is broken;
before the pitcher is shattered at the spring,
     and the wheel broken at the well,
     and the dust returns to the ground it came from,
and the spirit returns to God who gave it.
“Meaningless! Meaningless!” says the Teacher.
     “Everything is meaningless!”

Not only was the Teacher wise, but he also imparted knowledge to the people. He pondered and searched out and set in order many proverbs. The Teacher searched to find just the right words, and what he wrote was upright and true.

The words of the wise are like goads, their collected sayings like firmly embedded nails—given by one shepherd. Be warned, my son, of anything in addition to them.

Of making many books there is no end, and much study wearies the body.

Now all has been heard;
     here is the conclusion of the matter:
Fear God and keep his commandments,
     for this is the duty of all mankind.
For God will bring every deed into judgment,
     including every hidden thing,
     whether it is good or evil.

– Ecclesiastes 12 (New International Version)

Prayers, love, and support for all of our newly-graduated kids.

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Observing Busyness

hurefairEverything is happening in the next few days. Retirement party, high school graduations, moving from one house to another, World Cup starting up, graduation party, patients needing visiting, some house planning and chores, and some hard memories that will pass with little notice. I’m blessed to no longer have crisis and event filled days and weeks but this week has stacked up to be a doozy. Actually, not so much for me as it will be for others. I will mostly be an observer as I move about watching and listening. Though I will need to stay on my game to make the appointments, it will be more about assisting, being with, and taking part in the activities and events of others.

I’m able now to often take inventory of what keeps me busy. Is it busyness because something external has happened completely out of my control that needs attention? Or does the busyness relate to consequences resulting from decisions, actions, or lack of sufficient planning on my part that requires a second, third, or even fourth take to get in order? Let me say here that I have never been one to need busyness to maintain an identity – that’s not in my DNA.

So it truly seems like there are two categories, at least, of what keeps us busy. One are the emergencies that need immediately attention. I’m fortunate to have the time to usually respond to these and not cause too many waves in my personal schedule. But the other category? I’m trying real hard to live intentionally and not create messes that need follow-up later – I try to plan and be focused on little tasks so they don’t turn into bigger tasks that come subsequently.

I find it sometimes takes more work up front but far less work later. And, I don’t run around later with my hair on fair as if everything is an emergency. I’m still learning, though, and need your help on this. If you can find the time, I will, too, and we can help each other get our stuff in order.

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High School Graduates

hrduitaion1NSCofC/GCofC Graduates since 1985.

Larry Baugh                                         Scott Baugh
Donny Blackmon                                 Shaketa Blair
Heather Bragg                                      Jennie Brandt
Matthew Brandt                                  Melanie Carter
Kawanis Coffield                                  Miya Coffield
Tareva Coffield                                    Brian Cotton
Jamie Dwight                                      Jay Dwight
Robert Ford                                         Akiemie Glenn
LeeAnn Godbey                                  Meghan Godbey
Adam Gold                                          Eboni Gold
Deborah Graham                                Skipper Graham
Tabitha Gray                                      Rich Hellmer
Devon Jackson                                   Nashara Jacques
Ben Jaques                                         Brian Jaques
Helen Jaques                                      Megan Johnson
Victoria Jones                                    Jordan Kinder
Andrea Kirk                                        Kim Kirk
Brandon Klein                                    Broy Klein
Maygan Klein                                     Brian Lane
Jon Litalien                                         Laura Litalien
Rebecca Litalien                                 Christian Lopez
Megan Lopez                                      Emily McNabb
Kathy McNabb                                   Stephanie Meredith
Adam Montoya                                  Calvin Nerove
Grant Nerove                                     Travis Nerove
Brandy Perham                                 Christopher Pressey
Elan Redmon                                     Niki Redmon
Jenna Reed                                        Chris Rule
Garrison Rule                                    Brian Sampsel
Jackie Sampsel                                  JR Sheets
Kelli Sheets                                        Brad Smith
Kevin Snyder                                     Steven Snyder
Paige Spiller                                      Erin Stratton
Heather Stringer                               Tim Stringer
Courtney Stroud                               John Trammel
Alex White                                        Leigh White
Sam White                                        Ricky Williams
Anastasia Yecke                               Tiffany Yecke
Nick Zumwalt                                  Zak Zumwalt
Madison Lopez (2015)

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Gentle Evening

If you need a quiet place for a conversation or just to be alone, I know the perfect place. I’m happy to accommodate.


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